Building Your Teen's Self-Esteem (Guest Post)

This guest post is contributed by Kitty Holman, who writes on the topics for nursing colleges.  She welcomes your comments at her email: kitty.holman20@gmail.com.

 Recent research into what teens want the most turned up some fascinating results. According to an article published in USA Today, it turns out that the thing young adults crave the most is not alcohol, a new car, or sex - instead, teens desire experiences that boost self-esteem like receiving a compliment or a good grade.

Having healthy self-esteem allows teenagers to pursue their studies, hobbies, and career aspirations with confidence. It's no surprise that strong self-esteem is negatively correlated to depression and anxiety, the Counseling and Mental Health Center of the University of Texas states. Luckily, parents can easily protect their teens against the negative effects of low self-esteem.  It's as basic as showing respect, demonstrating your love and trust, and regularly praising them.

The type of praise given is important as well. Praise should center around your teen's hard work, according to Carol Dweck, and not around their innate talents or intelligence. Praise for intelligence can drive your teen to play it safe and only accomplish things that make them appear smart whereas praise for hard work encourages the mindset that effort equals success.  

A helpful tactic: Parents can remind teens of their past accomplishments when the teens are feeling low on confidence.  

Though teens may not outright ask for it, (they are more likely to ask for a car or a higher allowance) simple praise can go a long way to make them feel valued and happy.